James 1:19a

“My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…”

We all tend to react in the heat of the moment. When accused, we defend. When insulted, we insult back. When angered, we retaliate. Things seem to happen so fast, even at home, and before you know it…feelings are hurt and relationships are damaged. We feel sorry, but it’s too late to erase what has been done.

Can you hear James calling to us from the past? “Slow down!” “Take it easy!” “Hold your tongue!” If we could learn to take a breath in the heat of the moment, our families would be much better off. Give your sibling or parent or child some time to explain their actions or words. Take a minute or two to cool down and get control of your anger. Don’t be so quick to say something. Take a moment to collect your thoughts and get your emotions under control before you speak.

As a rule of thumb, after there has been some sort of conflict in your home there should be a few moments of quiet contemplation before you get to a resolution. Have a seat. Collect your thoughts. Calm your spirit. Ask thoughtful questions…and then listen. My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this for the sake of your family!

APPLICATION: Discuss a recent conflict that occurred in your home. Act it out how it could have been handled by applying today’s verse. Agree as a family to take a few moments to calm down, collect your thoughts, and then listen before you speak your peace…then pray and ask the Lord for the strength to do it on a daily basis.